It’s amazing what a small change can do to improve your attitude and outlook. This past weekend, my wife and I celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary. In today’s culture, being married to the same person for that length of time is quite an accomplishment. As I reflected on the past 20 years, I started to ponder what made it work for us. My conclusion? Small Changes.
To be sure, we are not the same people today that we were 20 years ago when we met. We were both in the Army, stationed at Ft. Carson in Colorado, me a never married boy of 21 and her a recently divorced mother of two. Our courtship was quick, taking just under 10 months to get from first date to wedding vows. Six days after we were married, she left for Korea and I didn’t see her for almost six months.
In our first 18 months together, we only spent the middle six together when our Korean tours overlapped. This was back before the internet, Skype, Yahoo! chat, or any other digital forms of communications were available, limiting us to weekly phone calls that were so long distance that $600 monthly phone bills were the norm, rather than the exception.
We’ve lived all over the country; Colorado, Kentucky, New York, Michigan, Hawaii, and Texas. We have been together through sickness and health, richer and poorer, and through good times and bad.
Over the years we have learned to adjust to each other, to try new things together, and to be comfortable with each other. As life delivers it’s next mission, we make our small adjustments and keep moving on. Sometimes it’s good, sometime’s it’s bad, but we always work together to make whatever adjustments are necessary.
Every time we make the small changes, it seems to reinvigorate what we have together. It’s never dull, it’s never boring. For the last 20 years I have been lucky enough to be married to my best friend. I wouldn’t have it any other way.